There are lots of reasons why kids misbehave, but let’s look at four main reasons.

1. Attention. These are children who persistently clown, disrupt, neglect important duties, and often dress in unique ways. They want the spotlight. What works with them is to set boundaries. Then we must steer their behavior in positive ways to get attention that is worthy. Help them to see that God can help them find joy in acceptable behavior.

2. Power. These are kids who want adult power. They want to be in charge but can’t handle it. When they don’t get their way, they become aggressive, stubborn, and hostile. What works? We win every battle as parents. If we don’t, these kids create chaos. Enforce the boundaries and family rules. If they don’t cooperate, they lose; eventually, they get the message. Share God and pray!

3. Revenge. These are children who don’t feel loved or worthy of love. They are often rebellious, rude, or destructive. They get even. We must allow God to change the family dynamics, so that everyone can heal. When we experience His power, the battles stop at home. These kids need to know they matter to us.

4. Helplessness. These children convince everyone that they are helpless and cannot do things. If we play into this as parents, they become worse. The solution: give them responsibility and say that we are certain they can handle it. If they want us to trust them, they must work; this is part of life. “If you forget your lunch, I’m not rescuing you,” should be our mode.